Our Journeys

Hello everyone, and welcome to my little corner of Rosebuds!  I am looking forward to sharing some of my thoughts and ideas about both the challenges and the rewards of undertaking each of our journeys to accept and express our authentic selves.

On our journeys, we will enjoy gains and we will suffer losses.  We will meet people along the way who may stay for a moment or may become long time companions.  Our lives become intertwined with others and hopefully as we travel along our journey we cause no harm to ourselves or others.

Some of you may have heard of Joseph Campbell and his famous statement to “Follow Your Bliss.”  He explains that your bliss is being authentic, and that when one is authentic the world will provide for the authentic person.   More likely than not, you either are or have been searching for a way to help you find and express your authentic self.  The Tiffany Club is a place where if you have any feeling of gender variance of any sort, you can come, talk, meet people, and freely express yourself.  Most important is that it is a place where you can come to grow, and in a safe environment, help you find your bliss!

There is another famous saying that I personally subscribe to:

Life is a journey, not a destination!

I interpret this to mean, that we, of course, need goals and direction.  However, we learn and grow from each step that we take on the journey.  It is the process of traveling that is most important!  Reaching the destination is the result and culmination of all the efforts made on the journey…and the starting point for the next journey.

Now sometimes it is hard to get to the starting point.  For me, I have kept my own gender issues hidden for over 50 years.  A little over 1 year ago, I took a giant step as I called and visited Tiffany Club.   I was so afraid to take that first step.  Now I am so glad that I did.   Do I know where I am headed?  Not exactly!  However I do know that I am not alone and there are many people on their journeys.   It has been helpful to meet, and share our stories.  It has been helpful to take baby steps when the time was right to learn and grow.   I have been able to share the successes and trials of others as they also share mine.

Are you ready to start your journey?  Let me share a poem by Mary Oliver with you:  (Find a quiet spot)

The Journey

One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice –
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do –
determined to save
the only life you could save.

~ Mary Oliver ~

Are you ready to recognize the voice that is your own?

Are you ready to take the next step on your journey?

Are you ready to save the only life you can save?

My wish for each of you is that you can find the answer to these questions to be in the affirmative.  The Tiffany Club would be honored to be able to support you on your journey.  I hope to see you at the club.

Grace Stevens,  Vice Chair, TCNE

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