by Stacey Carla
“Semi-out” gatherings seem ever more popular these days. The Internet provides almost total secrecy for those too shy, but more and more girls and their admirers seek something a little less virtual. Gatherings like the seasonal parties hosted by John Warrener, founder of Glamour Boutique, have seen attendance mushroom lately. In 2012 John’s spring and Halloween events attracted 50 to 100 of us. So far this year participation has more than doubled. March’s “Spring Bling” party attendance was a surprising 135. John added a new “Summer Sizzler” party June 14 and numbers approached 200. Tiffany Club is helping sponsor John’s parties this year after seeing its own First Event transgender winter conference grow double-digit percentages the last few years. Is it just Boston or are more of us ready to get out as long as “out” is safe and not too public?
There were a number of partners this time and spouse support in the transgender community appears to be growing too. One lucky couple even publicly renewed their vows in a special ceremony that evening, trans white wedding dress and bouquet included! But most were without their mates. As usual lots of the conversation was about what wives did and did not know and how good or bad things were at home.
The trans women were pretty diverse too. I met at least one girl out dressed for the very first time, and she looked amazing! Others are have been around for decades. Many danced, usually with the other girls, to music provided by DJ Paula Howard, president of Tiffany Club. Others surrounded the dance floor, possibly scared to join the fun. Even more sat around the numerous tables and chatted.
Lots of effort obviously goes into planning outfits for big events like these and everyone looked great. Twenty lucky souls looked even better after getting Glamour Boutique makeovers, which John had running most of the day, both at his Auburn store and at the party, held at the Indian Meadows Country Club, well off the main road in Westborough, shielded from public view.
John’s parties usually include a voluntary “beauty” contest where attendees can vote for the girls choosing to compete. This time it was for “Miss Summer Sizzler”. Voting criteria are necessarily pretty vague and the contest often seems more about lobbying and popularity than looks. Which is probably just as well given the egos many of us have invested in our appearance. There was even some out-and-out vote buying, with one contestant offering me a little vial of perfume, “good stuff” she said. The winners were Miss Cha Cha, Miss Summer Sizzler 2013, Tina, first runner up, and Vanessa, that amazing first timer, second runner up who apparently went home early because she was missing when the awards were announced.
John Warrener is an icon in the transgender world, at least the MTF part. In 1995 he founded Glamour Boutique as an Internet mail order business supplying breast forms, corsets, clothing and accessories nationwide. Many of us purchased our first “girl things” from John. When the business outgrew his home, he opened a Glamour Boutique store near the Mass Pike, 850 Southbridge Street, Auburn, and eventually a couple of others out west too. Five years ago, John sold the online business, which is now run out of New Jersey. But he kept the Auburn store and has started a second online site, TGFashions.com, which competes with his old GlamourBoutique.com now that the two business are fully separate. By the way, John is the best source of inexpensive jewelry I’ve found, with a big selection of clip-on earrings and some hoop bracelets that fit over your hands! John often appears at his parties as Chrissy, but not this summer. Who has time to dress when business is booming?
John’s next private party is scheduled for October 18th as a Halloween Bash. Jodi Jolt and her Ghoulish Girls will be playing live. Krissy Bee will be back to get the girls onto the dance floor. A psychic will also be there to tell the futures of those who are brave enough to get a reading. Rumor also has it that a few scary monsters may be attending to liven up the night. Visit tgfashions.com for more information.
by Grace Stevens
This Sunday is Father’s day.
My kids grew up with a dad who filled all the expected dad roles. I was there teaching and coaching baseball and basketball for many years. I did the driving, the grilling, mowing the lawn, growing the garden, training the dog, helping with the homework — and loved every minute of it. I was also somewhat controlling and thinking that I knew better than everyone, which as I know now was one of my methods of hiding what was inside me.
A few years ago, when I told the kids that I was transgender, my biggest fear was that they would abandon me. Each of them, I believe, have processed my transition in a different manner but I have not lost any of them. Sometimes we chat about it, and I believe that still having them in my life is another blessing that I have been given.
Presently, two of my kids call me Grace, and the other still calls me dad. It must be confusing for them. I am OK with whatever makes them comfortable.
Over the past two years I have changed a great deal. However there is least one thing that hasn’t: I am still (a) dad.
Grace Stevens, a mainstay at TCNE and co-chair of our annual First Event conference, has set up as possibly the first Gender Variance Consultant nationwide. In creating Gender Variance Education & Training, Grace combines an M.A. in Counseling Psychology with years of leadership in the New England transgender community. Over the past four years Grace has presented on different transgender and relationship topics in a variety of settings both within and outside of the gender variant community. Her new consultancy focuses on helping business, government and other organizations understand and respond to the issues that gender variant people experience, both proactively and reactively. Visit her new web site, www.GenderVarianceEducation.com.
Save the date: On Saturday, July 20, Tiffany Club’s Annual Barbecue happens at the clubhouse. We will update this post as details become available. But burgers and great conversation are a given!
Also coming up are the TCNE Annual Meeting and Board Elections. Please check back for details.
We are in the early planning stages for First Event 2014, (“What do you want to be when you grow up?”), January 22-26, 1014 again at the Peabody Marriott.
Help us make a vital and growing conference even better next year! We are currently seeking volunteers to join the First Event Committee and help plan and manage the conference in two important positions:
- Transportation Coordinator
- Evening Entertainment Assistant Coordinator
If interested, please e-mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org with your name and contact information. Please include a short description of yourself and where you would like to help. Thank you!
Due to the overwhelming success of the recent Spring Bling fling, join us at the new SUMMER SIZZLER PARTY on Friday, June 14, from 8:00 pm to 1:00 am, once again at Indian Meadows Country Club (also known as Acacia Functions) in Westborough. This is a very nice facility off Route 9, way back off the main road in a very private and safe setting surrounded by the golf course.
Tiffany Club is again joining John Warrener’s new TGFashions.com along with Glamour Boutique, 850 Southbridge Street, Auburn, MA, in sponsoring this newly added summer party. Glamour Boutique’s fall and spring parties have become a popular tradition in the transgender community, so popular that John is adding a third season, the first annual Summer Sizzler Party!
To celebrate the arrival of summer, we urge participants to wear their hottest outfits. Each and every person entering will receive a heart necklace. At 11:00 pm participants are free to try to claim as many of those hearts as they can from their fellow party goers. At midnight, they bring their captured hearts to the front to be counted. There will be three prizes and titles will then be given out:
Miss Sultry (2nd Runner Up)
Miss Steamy (1st Runner Up)
Miss Sizzling Hot (Most Hearts)
For those who have not been to the country club, there are three rooms in the front section. On the far left is a section usually set up for Saturday weddings. In the center is a room with tables where people can sit and talk near the bar. And on the far right is a decent sized room with a dance floor with more tables and chairs for resting or watching the dancers. For those needing a place to change into or out of their outfits, we will have areas available at the country club.
All CDs, Ts, MtFs, FtMs, Admirers, etc. are welcome to party and dance the night away. TCNE’s incredible Paula Howard will be our DJ, providing the best dance music possible. Drinks are very reasonable at the club and free munchies will be available too.
If you call or e-mail in a reservation to TGFashions.com / Glamour Boutique Auburn, you only pay $10 at the door. Or pay $15 at the door without a reservation. Parking is free and is within steps of the entrance.
To make your reservation or if you need more information, just drop John Warrener a line at email@example.com. You can also call or drop by the Glamour Boutique store, 508-721-7800 or 888-721-3177 toll free, 850 Southbridge Street, Auburn, MA.
For updates on the party visit www.TGFashions.com. Please Friend them on Facebook at: http://www.facebook.com/pages/TG-Fashions/196975520352573
For Makeover Appointments, please contact John at firstname.lastname@example.org or
508-721-7800 (888-721-3177 toll free) and he can arrange one of our make up artists for you.
The closest lodging is Motel 6, within a mile of the Indian Meadows Country Club on the same side of the street. They have great rates. Motel 6, 399 Turnpike Road, Westborough, 508-366-0202.
Directions: Indian Meadows is at 275 Turnpike Road in Westborough, MA. It is on the western side of Westborough. Look for the Wendy’s on the opposite side of Route 9 as a guide point. There is a Burlington Coat Factory behind the Wendy’s. (Note that there is another Wendy’s near I-495 on the other side of the I-495 junction.) The roadway to the country club is on the west bound side directly across from the Wendy’s and has a red light of its own. For those of you getting off onto Route 9 from I-495, it is 4.7 miles to the west on the right side. You will pass Westborough Toyota, then Glick Nissan, just before reaching the country club driveway on the right. The website for the Indian Meadows Country Club is www.AcaciaFunctions.com.
Join us June 14 for a wonderful evening of fun and sizzling outfits!
Join us again this month on Saturday, June 8 at the Randolph Country Club for dancing and fun. RCC, 44 Mazzeo Drive, Randolph, is an trans-friendly alternative club. GPS users beware, the club is behind an unrelated building with loading docks and is not quite visible from the road. As usual, we open TCNE in Waltham starting around 6:00 until 8:00 pm for those who want to dress or car pool. Then we meet at RCC in Randolph to dance the night away until the 2:00 am closing. There is also karaoke and an outdoor patio with pool! The “Friends of RCC” group also meets there that night, so come and make new friends!
Grace Stevens found this mainstream ABC News Video exploring public reaction to an out transgender woman in a staged confrontation. And what do you know, people are amazingly supportive!
Thank you Grace!
Another outing! Join Tiffany Club at our second visit to the Randolph Country Club Saturday, May 11, dancing and fun. RCC, 44 Mazzeo Drive, Randolph, MA, is an alternative night club thirty minutes south of Waltham, with a long history of being trans friendly.
We will open Tiffany Club in Waltham starting around 6:00 until 8:00 pm for those who want to dress or car pool. Then we will meet at RCC in Randolph to dance the night away. Or at least until their extra late 2:00 am closing time. They have DJ’s, live entertainment and a bar outside by a large swimming pool, although it might not be warm enough for that yet.
The “Friends of RCC” group also meets that night, so we may meet other girls like ourselves who regularly attend the Randolph Country Club. If you are looking to go out to a public venue for the first time or have been out before but looking for a new club, please join us!
Also remember to save the date for our first annual Summer Sizzler Party. On Friday, June 14, Glamour Boutique, 850 Southbridge Street, Auburn, MA, along with Tiffany Club, will co-sponsor a party from 8:00 pm to 1:00 am at the Indian Meadows Country Club facility in Westborough. E-mail John at email@example.com to reserve and pay $10 at the door. Those without reservations will pay $15. There will be a cash bar and dancing with DJ Paula! Wear your hottest summer outfit – prizes will be awarded for most sultry.